Parents looking for positive ways to help a struggling young teen girl can learn about how we help students involved in conflict at home or at school, at our accredited boarding school near Austin,TX.
Established in 1993, River View Christian Academy’s purpose is to provide a safe, structured, and supportive setting for struggling teenage girls, 12-17 years old. River View encourages positive change in girl students who have struggled academically due to negative influences or behavior like becoming involved in conflicts.
River View is not a residential treatment center, or therapeutic boarding school, but we have found that a structured and caring environment can make an enormous difference in correcting behavioral issues among teenagers. River View understands that parents want to send a girl to a safe, monitored environment where she receives personal care, and guidance that helps heal emotional issues–whether brought on by trauma, foster care, adoption or victimization.
And while the young teen girl enrolls our residential boarding school to improve her academics and learn positive life skills, River View Christian Academy also helps teen girls struggling with conflict issues improve their mental and physical health.
Call us to learn more: 1-800-494-2200
When Conflict Happens at Home
Conflict between parents and children is normal. It is part of family life. But conflict that goes on for a long time and gets worse over time can cause stress and can hurt relationships.
It is important to communicate with each other and bring conflict to a peaceful solution. You can do this through compromise or by agreeing to disagree.
No matter what else you do, communicate with your children and make sure they know that you love them. This can make dealing with conflict easier and more effective. 1
How a Parent Should Behave during a Constructive Conflict
• Respect the differences between you and your child.
- Try to put yourself in our child’s shoes. Start your conversation with the words: “I understand that you…” followed by their point of view and your response to it.
- Take your child’s ideas seriously. Respect their taste and interests. Don’t disregard their feelings and views.
- Do not discredit your child. Do not point out the child’s characteristics or traits. Avoid insulting phrases and don’t be inappropriate.
- Allow your child to express their emotions – even with shouting and tears. Any conflict is usually caused by stored up negative emotions. When all the negativity gets flushed away, new space is created for positivity.
- Offer them an alternative. If at a given time you cannot come to an agreement, make sure you offer a different option; one that will be acceptable and desirable for you and for your child.
- You must, without fail, tell your child and make them feel that you love and respect them as an individual.
When A Child Experiences Conflict at School
Help your child unlock the keys to friendship with these conflict resolution behaviors tips:
Tip #1: Learn to Manage Strong Emotions
Helping children learn simple strategies for remaining calm, such as taking a deep breath or stopping and counting to ten is an important part of the process of effective conflict resolution.
Tip #2: Talk & Listen
Help your child to recognize the value of using words and speaking nicely to solve conflict.
Tip #3: Problem Solve Together to Find a Solution
Initially children will need help to navigate the process of brainstorming potential solutions together, with the aim being to find a solution that makes everyone happy.
Tip #4: Encourage Fairness
Talk regularly with children about the benefits of being kind, being fair and sharing with others.
Tip #5: When Nothing Else Works
Teach your child that it is okay to walk away when nothing else works, and that they should feel safe to come to you or another trusted adult to seek assistance resolving difficult situations. 2
River View Helps Girls Heal Conflict Issues
We understand that parents can try to teach their children good ways to resolve conflicts at home, and at school. But some kids still continue to struggle and fight with parents, siblings and friends.
One of the most important aspects of redirecting a teen who is struggling is for them to be in an environment that is structured with a routine schedule that they can count on. We believe in student boundaries in all areas of life. Another reason for our success over 25 years at River View Christian Academy is the high level of involvement of staff and parents.
Located on 45 acres in the beautiful hill country of central Texas, River View students are also responsible for garden and animal chores, in addition to school and homework. Of course, there are fun school activities, as well as the amazing parks in the area.
We also provide nutritious meals, and healthy exercise and activities. We want each girl student to experience positive benefits of learning boundaries and responsibility, as well as improve her daily life in a challenging environment.
If you want to learn more about how we help young girls struggling with conflict issues at our ranch and Christian boarding school, please call 1-800-494-2200 now.
River View wants to help you and your family!